Space

Feeling Smothered: How to Learn to Give Space and Breathe Again

Feeling Smothered: How to Learn to Give Space and Breathe Again
If you are feeling smothered, then speak up. If you don’t get some space, you are going to get to the point where there is no going back. When you are in love, those first few weeks are, well, spectacular. You can’t get enough of each other. You giggle at every little ping of your phone telling you your sweetie says “Hi.” You might even give them their own ring tone. But, what happens when you start feeling smothered? Does that mean the romance is over? Every relationship goes through a natural course of stages. Lust is first, where you can’t get enough of them. The second, a cooli...
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How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them: Letting Fear Go

How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them: Letting Fear Go
Set free the one you love. If they return, it was meant to be. Bullshit, isn’t it? There’s no guarantee for how to give someone space without losing them. That old saying, “If you love someone set them free, and if it was meant to be, they will come back,” sucks. Not because it isn’t true, but because it sounds so damn easy. If you want to know how to give someone space without losing them, the answer is mind over manner. For those of us who have a harder time with the inner voices that create anxiety, it can be torture. Rationally, what you already know, and I don’t have to tell you, is that ...
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Space – Not the Outer Kind – That Unseen Aspect Necessary to Every Relationship

Space – Not the Outer Kind – That Unseen Aspect Necessary to Every Relationship
When your partner says "You are smothering me" or "You need to give me some space." or "I need some space." can leave you feeling disturbed, on the offense, or even scared.  The first thing you may respond to your partner is, "What do you mean you need more space, space for what?"  It is a pretty typical response, maybe not the best, but when one is feeling threatened, knee jerk responses can come flowing out of our mouths at times. First thing you need to do is breath, breath really deep and think of what brought out the space statement.  Was there anything being discussed at the time?  Have...
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