Marriage

Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage?

Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage?
I’ve been aiming this year to pray more and encouraging y’all to do the same. Specifically, I’m hoping we can grow into praying more intentionally, more openly, and more fervently for our marriages and marriage beds. So then I started thinking about how I prayed so often during the worst years of my marriage. In case you haven’t been following me long, let me explain that my husband and I had some bad years of marriage, during which I wasn’t sure we were going to make it. Thankfully, we have moved past those difficult years and are in a season of genuine commitmen...
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Marriage Help: How to Help Your Relationship Survive The Financial Crisis

Marriage Help: How to Help Your Relationship Survive The Financial Crisis
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Victor FranklYou don't need me to tell you about the dire state of the American economy and the reverberations being felt around the world. While you're probably well aware of how this is directly impacting your bank account, home value, and nest egg, there is a hidden casualty that doesn't seem to be getting any press: Marriages and relationships are buckling under the stress of these uncertain, stressful economic times. Money is a sensitive and complicated issue for many couples. Arguments and powe...
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Marriage Problems Are Meant To Be

Marriage Problems Are Meant To Be
An excerpt from Naked Marriage. The problem with romantic comedies is that they romanticize too much. “You complete me” is a fantastic movie moment in Jerry Maguire, but it’s reel-life, not real life. So many married people buy into the lie, “Once I find The One, I’ll be complete.” Then one, three, ten, or twenty years later, they realize that the void they thought their spouse would fill is empty, and perhaps it had never really been filled in the first place. They suddenly think, “This isn’t working,” but they’re not sure what “this” is or how to get it working again. It’s a frustrating, mad...
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Save My Marriage Or Relationship – Getting to the Core of Relationship Problems

Many people search on my website because their relationship has run into difficulties and they are looking for help or ideas. The truth is that sustaining a successful romantic relationship is one of the hardest things we will ever do in life. After falling in love and the 'honeymoon' period, we all have to work on our relationships. This is because relationships bring up our deepest fears and insecurities. We can even think of relationship problems as our best opportunity to heal our personal issues - that is why we have come together with our partner. I could offer you some temporary fixes ...
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3 Keys to Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage

3 Keys to Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage
It doesn’t matter if it’s your spouse, your kid, your co-worker or God – TRUST is just so important to any quality relationship. Trust is a funny thing. We tend to assume the best for ourselves since we know our intent and the worst in others because we judge based only on the outcomes of their actions. We can be especially distrusting if we’ve been hurt in the past…and we’ve all been hurt! Trust Is Dynamic If I asked you whether you trust your spouse, you could answer as “yes” or “no” (hopefully it’s yes). But if I asked whethe...
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Discover What Your Marriage Is Missing: Your Relationship Check-up Is Long Overdue

Discover What Your Marriage Is Missing: Your Relationship Check-up Is Long Overdue
No one can deny the benefit of preventive medicine. First of all, it's often easier to prevent an illness than it is to cure it--that's why you go in for your annual physical (or why you should). And we all can agree that feeling healthy is preferable to feeling sick. So looking out for potential illnesses before they take over your life is the reasoning behind the medical check-up. But when was your last relationship check-up?Everyone needs a Relationship Check-up...Unfortunately, couples and couples counselors have not adopted the philosophy of the regular physical for relationships. Most ...
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Try The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy For Free

Try The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy For Free
This year marked the launch of The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy. An online community where you can walk alongside us and others in the Academy and get in-depth support, coaching, and encouragement for your marriage and sex life. In the Academy you will receive more than the 30-minutes a week of help you currently get –  plus you and your spouse get the chance to go deeper if you wish to cover more specific issues that you face in your relationship. You can walk alongside Shannon and I as we coach and encourage you to overcome the struggles and challenges that plague your relationship. In...
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Marriage: Is It Redundant Similar To Every Other Monogamous Relationship Or Something Else?

Marriage: Is It Redundant Similar To Every Other Monogamous Relationship Or Something Else?
It’s so done and dusted that it almost seems like an age-old debate now. But, it isn’t. The question of whether it is to be, or not to be is very recent. And it came about with the rise of gender equality, freedom of sexuality and role reversals. A lot of millennials are questioning the institution altogether, while others are entering into holy matrimony for all the wrong reasons. Look around you and tell me if you haven’t seen couples get married only because they were too afraid to be alone; or because they thought they couldn’t do better or, simply put, kids and fin...
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No Strings Attached

No Strings Attached
Do something for your husband or give him a gift … just because you love him. No strings attached. No ulterior motive. Give with the intention of blessing him and enjoying his happiness. Every unselfish act of love whispers God’s name.  Bob Goff Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you find joy in giving to your husband. This Month’s Marriage Challenge ♥ Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband. Life Of Joy: Afternoon/Early Evening Tidy Up A practical fix to an emotional need. (in)courage: Your Mission Is Wherever You Are Look d...
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The Hidden Danger in Many Christian Marriage Books

The Hidden Danger in Many Christian Marriage Books
I realize I’m treading on sacred ground with this post, but I believe it is ground that must be treaded. There are several popular and helpful works in the Christian marriage-help book world, The Five Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs, Love and Respect, The Love Dare to name a few of the major players. While each of these works has offered up help and support, and possibly even hope to thousands of people throughout the world – there’s an undercurrent found within the pages that may actually be causing more harm than help. While I want to believe that this undercurrent may not...
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Should You Track the Frequency of Sex in Your Marriage?

Should You Track the Frequency of Sex in Your Marriage?
How often do you have sex? It’s a question some spouses can easily answer, and some not so easily. If you read my short story, “After the Baby,” in Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories, the main character is a husband who knows exactly how long it’s been since he and his wife made love. Because it’s been too long. And I get that in comments and emails from time to time — a spouse who can state with absolute accuracy how many times they’ve had sex with their mate in the last month or year. Yet maybe we think we know, and don’t. Spouses are not always on the same page about how often...
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Don’t Focus on the Fight, Go Deeper

Don’t Focus on the Fight, Go Deeper
When we’re involved in a disagreement/argument/fight, we men usually do one of two things. We either fight with all we have to win, or we walk away. If we fight it out, the way our brains are wired and the way our hormones work we are prone to tunnel vision, seeing just the issue and nothing else. We can easily lose sight of the bigger picture. Often the issue we’re arguing about isn’t the real issue. We use things as proxies, a way of dealing with being unhappy or upset without having to discuss the real reason for those feelings. A common way men do this is to pick a fight when they a...
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