Marriage

If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be

If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be
The following is an excerpt from Naked Marriage I believe a majority of married couples have a false notion of what marriage truly is, and those rose-colored assumptions tend to heighten expectations to such unrealistic levels that these couples often find themselves in predicament’s like Amy and Daniel’s. Because they don’t understand what marriage is and could be, they hide from each other. To keep the peace, they continue the charades, each spouse reluctantly believing, “I guess this is just how it’s supposed to be.” Consequently, they refuse to get naked with each other in all of th...
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5 Must See TED Talks for Your Marriage

In today’s world there are many resources that will help your marriage. I’m biased but Simple Marriage and Sexy Marriage Radio are among the best. But there are also so must-see TED talks worth your time. In no particular order: Yann Dall’Aglio’s “Love — you’re doing it wrong.” Dall’Aglio, a French philosopher and author says love is the desire of being desired. But in a world that often favors the self over others, how can people find the tenderness and connection they crave? It may be easier than you think: “For a couple who is no longer ...
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Unplug This Holiday And Plug Into Marriage

Unplug This Holiday And Plug Into Marriage
There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant.~Ralph Waldo Emerson If you are like me, you spent a good deal of your day with your computer on, Gmail (or whatever email service you use) running in the background, several browser screens going throughout the day, as well as a few other programs thrown in for good measure. To top it off your phone is placed right next to your laptop. Yet, even with all this “work” open, I can waste a day with the best of them. Oh, I almost forgot to mention that I will also have music playing and/or the TV on as well. I am thor...
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The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy

The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy
Five years ago Sexy Marriage Radio came on the air and began helping married couples “heat up the marriage bed.” While I knew I was on to something with the idea of Sexy Marriage Radio – I didn’t know exactly what this show would become. This week marks another milestone for our show. The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy is now open for enrollment! The idea of the Academy is to provide you with a way to receive more than the 30-minutes a week of help you currently get and offer you and your spouse the chance to go deep. To walk alongside Shannon and I as we coach and encour...
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Create A Life And Marriage That Clicks

Create A Life And Marriage That Clicks
Right now, my married life seems to be clicking, or in the zone. My wife changed jobs to one that has her working directly with people and seeing the impact of her knowledge as it helps them with their money. I’m creating systems, training and resources to help married people like you improve the your most important relationship. We’ve worked hard to get to where we are. Full disclosure, our married life still includes times of frustration, heartache, and tension between us. What makes this different for us is the ebbs and flows of relationship harmony aren’t over-reacted to ...
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Marriage Made Easy With The 6 C’s

Marriage Made Easy With The 6 C’s
Remember when you first met your spouse? It may have been one of those fairy-tale moments. Everything around you faded into the background and the only thing that existed was them. You mustered up the courage to introduce yourself and your relationship was born. Or it may have been a friendship that eventually transitioned into a romance. Regardless how it began, married life is different than dating. And nothing can really prepare you for marriage, but marriage. Marriage may be the most difficult thing in your life – it can also be the best thing in your life – likely both. I&#821...
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Sleep your way to a better marriage

Sleep your way to a better marriage
Sleep has lost respect in our society. Gone are the days of our days being regulated solely by the sun. Now we are routinely charging through our days with lights all around us until we fall into bed and douse all light. The problem with most of our nightly routines – it dramatically affects our sleep. And when our sleep is affected, everything else in our life is as well. Before we go any further, let’s answer the question I know you’re wondering, “How much sleep do you need each night?” First, some foundation. Research has found that we sleep in 90 minute cycles...
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Marriage Is About Action

Marriage Is About Action
Napoleon Dynamite: Well, nobody’s going to go out with ME! Pedro: Have you asked anybody yet? Napoleon Dynamite: No, but who would? I don’t even have any good skills. Pedro: What do you mean? Napoleon Dynamite: You know, like nunchuk skills, bow-hunting skills, computer hacking skills. Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills. Pedro: Aren’t you pretty good at drawing, like animals and warriors and stuff? Napoleon Dynamite: Yes… probably the best that I know of. Pedro: Just draw a picture of the girl you want to take out… and give it to her for like a gift...
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Relationship Advice to Strengthen Your Marriage

Relationship Advice to Strengthen Your Marriage
Relationship management is oftentimes a difficult thing to do. In this day and age, most spouses both work and are usually completely exhausted, especially if there are children involved. Between work and children's activities as well as household chores, it seems there aren't enough hours in the day to find the time to be a couple. There is no crime in admitting that you need marriage help to improve your skills to manage your relationship.Recognizing the Need for Relationship HelpIt's doubtful that there is a couple anywhere in the world that didn't need to ask for relationship and marriage...
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When Love Dies: Cure For A Broken Heart

When Love Dies:  Cure For A Broken Heart
It has been aptly said that love is a many splendored thing. Indeed, when a person is in love they feel alive, young, energetic, etc. However, when a relationship fails or there is a loss of a loved one there is associated pain. Often, this pain is referred to as a broken heart. It is called a broken heart because the heart is often associated with love. Therefore, if a person loses a love, the heart experiences pain and therefore it is called a broken heart. Subsequently, it is important to know what cures for a broken heart are. Specifically, those cures can be time, counseling ...
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Marriage After Sobriety

Marriage After Sobriety
When long-awaited sobriety finally arrives, partners expect their past relationship problems will disappear. Often, there is a “honeymoon” period when they’re on their best behavior and reaffirm their love and commitment. After all that they’ve been through together, they have high hopes for a rosy future and easier times ahead. Yet, sobriety destabilizes the status quo, offering opportunities for positive change. But it’s also an unsettling time. Both partners feel vulnerable. It’s a rocky transition in the relationship presenting many challenges. The Addict Sober or abstinent add...
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How Do You Know When Your Marriage is Over: And Is It Too Late?

How Do You Know When Your Marriage is Over: And Is It Too Late?
When you said “I do” you meant it, but you now feel more like “I don’t.” So, how do you know when your marriage is over? Here are some clues. Every marriage is bound to encounter some bumps along the road. But if it feels more like you are on a rollercoaster, then you may be wondering if it is all worth it. Marriage is not supposed to be easy, but if the flame is gone and you feel like it is sucking the life out of you, then you may have to re-evaluate if your significant other really was the one for you. How do you know when your marriage is over There are signs that your marriage may need a ...
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How To Make Him Choose You Over Other Women (Even If They’re Prettier)

How To Make Him Choose You Over Other Women (Even If They’re Prettier)
How To Make Him Run Home To You - Weird “Mouse Trap Method” Reveals Funny Secret To Getting His Attention How To Make Him Choose You Over Other Women (Even If They’re Prettier) Bummed Out By The “Shifty Eye Syndrome”? Make Him Love You Hard With This! Are you stuck with a guy who has the ‘shifty eye syndrome’? Or maybe you’re in a relationship with a man whose neck would break to get a peek at anything with legs;meanwhile you’re collecting dust over in the corner, wondering if he’ll ever see you that way again. You might not realize it just yet, but when it comes to love, men are act...
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A Marriage (Bed) Secret

A Marriage (Bed) Secret
My Top Twelve: As Lori and I cruise with the icebergs, I’m running a dozen of my favourite posts. Enjoy! When I wrote this back in 2014 I originally called it “A secret the manosphere doesn’t know”. I think that was shortly after we had a bunch of those fellows show up in the comments and explain how they thought things should be. —– Respected, secure wives who are living out their calling are way more fun in bed. They have more fun, and they make it more fun for their husband. They’re more likely to seek out sex and more likely to push the limits.  Fo...
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Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage?

Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage?
I’ve been aiming this year to pray more and encouraging y’all to do the same. Specifically, I’m hoping we can grow into praying more intentionally, more openly, and more fervently for our marriages and marriage beds. So then I started thinking about how I prayed so often during the worst years of my marriage. In case you haven’t been following me long, let me explain that my husband and I had some bad years of marriage, during which I wasn’t sure we were going to make it. Thankfully, we have moved past those difficult years and are in a season of genuine commitmen...
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Marriage Help: How to Help Your Relationship Survive The Financial Crisis

Marriage Help: How to Help Your Relationship Survive The Financial Crisis
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Victor FranklYou don't need me to tell you about the dire state of the American economy and the reverberations being felt around the world. While you're probably well aware of how this is directly impacting your bank account, home value, and nest egg, there is a hidden casualty that doesn't seem to be getting any press: Marriages and relationships are buckling under the stress of these uncertain, stressful economic times. Money is a sensitive and complicated issue for many couples. Arguments and powe...
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Marriage Problems Are Meant To Be

Marriage Problems Are Meant To Be
An excerpt from Naked Marriage. The problem with romantic comedies is that they romanticize too much. “You complete me” is a fantastic movie moment in Jerry Maguire, but it’s reel-life, not real life. So many married people buy into the lie, “Once I find The One, I’ll be complete.” Then one, three, ten, or twenty years later, they realize that the void they thought their spouse would fill is empty, and perhaps it had never really been filled in the first place. They suddenly think, “This isn’t working,” but they’re not sure what “this” is or how to get it working again. It’s a frustrating, mad...
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Save My Marriage Or Relationship – Getting to the Core of Relationship Problems

Many people search on my website because their relationship has run into difficulties and they are looking for help or ideas. The truth is that sustaining a successful romantic relationship is one of the hardest things we will ever do in life. After falling in love and the 'honeymoon' period, we all have to work on our relationships. This is because relationships bring up our deepest fears and insecurities. We can even think of relationship problems as our best opportunity to heal our personal issues - that is why we have come together with our partner. I could offer you some temporary fixes ...
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3 Keys to Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage

3 Keys to Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage
It doesn’t matter if it’s your spouse, your kid, your co-worker or God – TRUST is just so important to any quality relationship. Trust is a funny thing. We tend to assume the best for ourselves since we know our intent and the worst in others because we judge based only on the outcomes of their actions. We can be especially distrusting if we’ve been hurt in the past…and we’ve all been hurt! Trust Is Dynamic If I asked you whether you trust your spouse, you could answer as “yes” or “no” (hopefully it’s yes). But if I asked whethe...
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