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All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common

All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common
Many of us don’t really know what makes a relationship healthy. Which is understandable, because many of us simply never learned. We look to our families to teach us, and depending on your childhood experiences, you might’ve seen a very different picture. A picture that was anything but healthy (though you assumed, again understandably, that it was totally normal and common). Maybe you regularly heard screaming and slammed doors. Maybe you regularly saw conflict go unaddressed, put away in a box in a bedroom. Maybe you regularly saw sulking and silent treatment. Maybe you regularly watched mas...
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Laws, Sausages, and Healthy Marriages

Laws, Sausages, and Healthy Marriages
One sweltering afternoon, a dear friend of mine and his wife were having a heated argument. Their temperaments, much like the temperature, rose well beyond their comfort so they decided to pause their fight and “cool off” on their porch. The much-needed quiet accompanied a gentle breeze and gave my friend the freedom to think clearly. In his refreshed state he began to chuckle. “What are you laughing at?” his wife queried. “I get it honey” he replied between chortles. “You get nothing” she retorted. “No, no, honey, I get it. You expose me. When I’m sad, when I’m angry, when I’m hurt, you expos...
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Dating Multiple People: Why This Isn’t Bad, but Really Healthy!

Dating Multiple People: Why This Isn’t Bad, but Really Healthy!
Dating multiple people might have a negative connotation, but there is nothing negative about playing the field to make sure you know what you want. I have a 13-year-old who just broke up with his first girlfriend. He is kind of a sensitive soul by nature, so I waited for the day with trepidation, thinking his whole world was going to fall apart. I found out about two weeks after they broke up. All he had to say about it was, “I am 13. Did you think I was going to marry her?” What my 13-year-old understands about dating multiple people, not many adults do. The phrase dating multiple people sou...
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How to Build a Healthy Relationship with Yourself Every Day

How to Build a Healthy Relationship with Yourself Every Day
A healthy relationship with ourselves is multi-layered. It’s complicated. It consists of many, many parts—just like any relationship with anyone. And just like any relationship, there are important ingredients to cultivating a loving, compassionate partnership. A healthy relationship with ourselves includes having a connected relationship with our bodies, according to Karin Lawson, Psy.D, a psychologist in private practice in Miami, Fla., who works with adults using a mind-body approach. What does this look like? We tune into our body’s cues and respond to them. For instance, we might notice t...
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Am I in a Healthy Relationship?

Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
Frequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?" Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different criteria regarding what constitutes health. For example, some people say they are very healthy if they get a cold or flu a few times a year, while others' health criteria is that they never get sick at all. For some, a healthy relationship is two people who never fight or argue, or who take care of each other a...
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Relationship Timeline: The 15 Phases of a Healthy Relationship

Relationship Timeline: The 15 Phases of a Healthy Relationship
While all relationships are different, there are still similarities in each one. Here’s what a healthy relationship timeline is supposed to look like. Think back to all of your relationships. They all started and developed relatively the same, right? Well, they should have. A relationship timeline – no matter who you date – should be relatively similar. That is, if it’s a healthy relationship. Each relationship goes through different stages at different times. And while some couples can stay in certain phases for longer than others, they still go through the same timeline. You may think it sou...
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Relationship Coach Recommends These 10 Steps to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

Relationship Coach Recommends These 10 Steps to Keep Your Relationship Healthy
There are two times that people put the most effort into a relationship--at the beginning, and at the end. At the beginning, we want so much to spend time together that we will make time to do whatever it takes. At the end of a relationship, we spend a lot of effort just to keep ourselves together while our relationship is falling apart. Many people learn too late that the most important time to work on a relationship is . . . every day. Because, while choosing a good partner is essential, just committing to someone does not ensure years of happiness. To continue to reap the rewards of a gr...
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