Defensive

How to Talk to Someone Who Always Gets Defensive

How to Talk to Someone Who Always Gets Defensive
Your loved one hurt your feelings or crossed a boundary. You’re trying to talk to them about it. But as soon as you start expressing yourself, they cross their arms. They look away. They start playing with their phone. They say things like: Why are you criticizing me? and I know you think I’m a terrible person. They start defending their behavior. They list a litany of reasons why you’re actually in the wrong. In other words, they get defensive. In fact, they get defensive any time you try to have a real conversation with them. And this defensiveness feels a lot like they don’t care. You feel ...
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