Emotional Attraction: 11 Signs You Have It and Why It’s Essential

Emotional Attraction: 11 Signs You Have It and Why It’s Essential
If there’s one thing all successful relationships need, it’s emotional attraction. Here’s why it’s important and the signs you have it with someone. There are all sorts of thing you probably look for in a partner. They need to be attractive to you, smart, funny, perhaps even very clean and organized. But the thing that’s not on your list but should be is emotional attraction. This is extremely important in relationships and without it, the relationship just won’t last very long. You can be attracted to someone in every single other way but if emotional attraction is absent, it’ll never work. W...
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Challenge Meanings

Challenge Meanings
As the most evolved species on the planet, humans are granted the ability to experience much more in this life than a genetic drive to find food, find a mate, and procreate for species survival. Humans have the ability to make choices. To be the masters of their own fate. You see it everyday. People who make good decisions and those that make bad ones. There are many articles on Simple Marriage that discuss how emotions and reactions can impact decisions. I am not advocating that decisions in life be devoid of emotion, our emotions are another aspect that distinguish us as humans. I am however...
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All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common

All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common
Many of us don’t really know what makes a relationship healthy. Which is understandable, because many of us simply never learned. We look to our families to teach us, and depending on your childhood experiences, you might’ve seen a very different picture. A picture that was anything but healthy (though you assumed, again understandably, that it was totally normal and common). Maybe you regularly heard screaming and slammed doors. Maybe you regularly saw conflict go unaddressed, put away in a box in a bedroom. Maybe you regularly saw sulking and silent treatment. Maybe you regularly watched mas...
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How to Tell if There’s Serious Chemistry Between Two People

How to Tell if There’s Serious Chemistry Between Two People
If you’re just an onlooker or you want to know if you have a connection with someone, knowing the signs of chemistry between two people is essential. It’s not always obvious when two people have a connection. And if you’re one of those two people, that can make it a bit frustrating. Sure, you know you like a person but how you be sure they like you too? Knowing how to read if there’s chemistry between two people can be a lot more beneficial than you probably think. However, chemistry is a very odd thing because it’s not very obvious. You can’t really look at it from a distance and see it. It a...
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Is Politics Ruining Your Friendships?

Is Politics Ruining Your Friendships?
I have written on this subject a couple of times before. I was rather abstract and non-committal in those earlier pieces. I explored hypotheticals and explained how you might keep your friendships intact despite political differences. But politics has turned in such a way that compels me to be more forthright in this matter. First, we must be absolutely clear about one thing. The claim that Trump has caused division in the country is false. He has done no such thing. He has only brought to the fore divisions that were already there. Putting Nazis and wh...
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15 Signs of Mutual Sexual Tension & How to Handle Your Horniness

15 Signs of Mutual Sexual Tension & How to Handle Your Horniness
Having mutual sexual tension can be really difficult to deal with, especially if you can’t satiate it. Here’s how to handle your irrational desires. One of the most obvious signs you and another person have some serious chemistry is mutual sexual tension. You feel it the second you meet and interact and honestly, it doesn’t usually go away on its own. And that can be a major issue if you can’t satisfy those feelings due to being in a relationship or not wanting to ruin a friendship. Sexual tension, in general, can be an issue if you’re seeing someone else and suddenly you have this intense des...
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Kindness: ESPECIALLY When It’s Not Easy

Kindness: ESPECIALLY When It’s Not Easy
In Paul’s 1 Corinthians 13 treatise on love, we’re told love is kind. We are NOT told love is kind when it’s easy or beneficial. Neither are we told love is less kind when it knows it’s kindness will be ignored or attacked. Love is kind, period. It’s easy to be kind when things are going well. When the bills are paid and there is money left, when the kids are doing well, when you enjoy spending time with your wife, and when sex happens more days than it does not. But when money is tight, the kids are a mess, you look for ways to escape being in the same room as y...
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How To Combat Distraction, Routine And Busyness

How To Combat Distraction, Routine And Busyness
Reposted from the archives. Life is full of distraction. Everywhere you look something’s vying for your attention. Take your kids to school, ride the train to work, log onto the Internet and you’ll see things aimed at taking your money, focus, and time. One thing about a world full of attention clutter, our brain can become numb to it so we get to where we don’t even see it. But don’t kid yourself, there’s a drawback to this numbness. It also means we don’t really experience the other things in our life. Human nature seems to crave routine and structure. One...
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Can’t Do Date Night and No Childcare? 9 Connection Builders for Couples

Can’t Do Date Night and No Childcare? 9 Connection Builders for Couples
Having kids is a beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling adventure. But it also adds stress to your relationship. After all, extra responsibilities and resources—finite things like money and your energy—are required. Depending on what stage your kids are in, you might feel like a zombie. You’re sleep-deprived and exhausted—and maybe even more emotional and sensitive than usual. You might be spending hours a week just on shuttling your kids to different activities. You and your spouse are spending less and less time together. And the distance between you might be growing bigger and bigger. “Sadly, ...
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Where are you? The science of finding love online (video)

Where are you? The science of finding love online (video)
Wise Readers,   Where are you? The Science of Finding Love Online  I hope you enjoy this YouTube video of my free seminar delivered 8/26/17 at the Eugene Public Library. Highlights: —Who are you and what are your goals? —Who uses the ‘Net for dating, and what are their results? —What kind of sites/apps are best for you? —How many? —How can you write a killer online ad? —And more! Thank you to Elle Oloresisimo for taking and posting the video, and for coming from Canada to attend this event! https://www.youtube.c...
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Preggophilia: A Bumpie Fetish Most Moms-to-Be Have No Idea About

Preggophilia: A Bumpie Fetish Most Moms-to-Be Have No Idea About
Maybe you’re wondering why if you’re pregnant, why men look at you with a twinkle in their eyes. Well, it’s called preggophilia. When someone’s pregnant, people’s go-to move is to touch the baby bump. They wanna feel the baby move. They also want to know how pregnant people have sex, but never mind. On the other side, you have people which take this to a different level of attraction and interest. This is when it’s called preggophilia. If you post your baby bump on social media, you’re probably getting a stream of likes, but there are different reasons why people take interest in your photo. W...
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Why You Don’t Have A Type

Why You Don’t Have A Type
Blondes, brunettes, and gingers; long hair and no hair; flat chested and big bosomed; tall and short; petite, athletic, voluptuous; the punk girl, the book worm, the ambitious professional, the stoner, the drinker, the slacker, the nerd; liberal and conservative; black, white, Asian, and Latino—you’ve dated all types. At first you thought it was a phase; an impulse to experiment while young. But as you moved on from your college you still found yourself attracted to many kinds of woman. Most of your friends are settled in their tastes and pre...
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The Passing of the Codependency Gauntlet

The Passing of the Codependency Gauntlet
This is an excerpt from the 2nd edition of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us, which will be published on 12/30/17.  The book is being been completely re-written: 70 pages of new content, reorganized, re-edited. As much as we would like to, we cannot avoid certain indisputable immutable facts of life: We will have to pay taxes, we will get older, we will most likely gain a few pounds, and we will always be connected to our childhood. Sigmund Freud was right, we are, indeed, creatures of our past; affected more by our formative years than by recent events and circumstance...
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The Death Of Long Distance Relationships

The Death Of Long Distance Relationships
It is not possible to control the circumstances under which you meet the woman of your dreams. She may be all that you have ever wanted. The looks, the brains, the body, the sense of humor, the shared outlook on life—all may be perfectly suited to your desire and temperament. But you met her while on vacation or while she was visiting friends where you live or in some other way that means the two of you, if you want to be together, will have to establish a long distance relationship. The prospect of a long distance relationship was once the so...
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How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them: Letting Fear Go

How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them: Letting Fear Go
Set free the one you love. If they return, it was meant to be. Bullshit, isn’t it? There’s no guarantee for how to give someone space without losing them. That old saying, “If you love someone set them free, and if it was meant to be, they will come back,” sucks. Not because it isn’t true, but because it sounds so damn easy. If you want to know how to give someone space without losing them, the answer is mind over manner. For those of us who have a harder time with the inner voices that create anxiety, it can be torture. Rationally, what you already know, and I don’t have to tell you, is that ...
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5 Communication Games Guaranteed to Bring You Closer

5 Communication Games Guaranteed to Bring You Closer
Play Your Way To Better Communication… “Let’s talk.” Those words can stop a partner dead in their tracks. The idea of “working on our communication” is usually met with eye rolls, shrugs or even denials of a problem. The first reaction is often, “We talk. We talk about the kids. We talk about the house. I asked you about your day.” You talk. But do you communicate? If you had to stop and think about that, read on because it may be the most important thing you can do for your relationship. Communication Is More than Talking Talking is simply sharing information using words. It is a wa...
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5 Must See TED Talks for Your Marriage

In today’s world there are many resources that will help your marriage. I’m biased but Simple Marriage and Sexy Marriage Radio are among the best. But there are also so must-see TED talks worth your time. In no particular order: Yann Dall’Aglio’s “Love — you’re doing it wrong.” Dall’Aglio, a French philosopher and author says love is the desire of being desired. But in a world that often favors the self over others, how can people find the tenderness and connection they crave? It may be easier than you think: “For a couple who is no longer ...
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How To Save My Relationship Using The Secrets

How To Save My Relationship Using The Secrets
Are you working a lot of hours? Is your partner feeling lonely? What about you, are you feeling like your partner is never available for you when you need them? Are you wondering "how to save my relationship"? Here are 7 strategies you can use on how to save your relationship.Number one, do you actually want to save your relationship? Is your partner ready to do the work it takes to save your relationship? Any relationship may be saved but it is going to take some work and if either of you is unwilling to do anything that it takes to save the relationship there could be little hope that you w...
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5 reasons for the increasing popularity of online senior dating

5 reasons for the increasing popularity of online senior dating
Online senior dating has earned immense popularity since last few years. In recent past online senior date process was quite unfamiliar and online dating process was considered basically an initiative of youngsters to find and communicate their friends and finding a special friend in this process of network friendship. But due to change of life style, change of average viewpoint toward life, so-called senior people are now taking their own initiative for finding their friends and soul mate by online dating process because in today's self-centered life style everybody needs a company to live i...
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Internet Dating: Four Essential Safety Guides

Internet Dating: Four Essential Safety Guides
Whether you are new to online dating sites or you have used web dating personals before as a dating service, it is possible that you have come across safety topics and discussions with regard to online dating. These discussions have arisen as a result of the increased number of people now using internet dating sites as an avenue for meeting some one new. Before I go any further, I should like to point out that it is generally agreed by the experts in the dating circles that dating online is as safe as any other form of meeting singles. Therefore the purpose of this article is simply to show m...
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