Relationships

Couples Therapists Reveal the Ingredients that Make the Biggest Impact on Your Relationship

Couples Therapists Reveal the Ingredients that Make the Biggest Impact on Your Relationship
When prospective clients call couples therapist Julia Nowland, they say they need help with communication. Because, they say, once they learn to communicate, their disagreements will finally diminish. How we communicate is critical to our closeness. However, the most important ingredient in a happy, healthy relationship, according to Nowland, is … you. “You can learn all the communication skills in the world but if you’re not willing to put them into practice when the emotions are running high, or you’re tired, or your GPS isn’t working and you’re lost on a count...
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First Love Factually book ad is crafted by its readers

First Love Factually book ad is crafted by its readers
Wise Readers & Friends: The first Love Factually book ad is up! I thank all of you who helped with the brief descriptions of the book. Y’all are pure genius—and you really get what this is all about:  Love + Science = a fun, easy read that lets science guide your search.  Love Factually blends heart, soul, and science so you find and keep the one.         Article from: Love Science-relationship advice, by Read more here. Photo by Nirvanagraphy - Away ! Interested in more on dating? continue reading here.
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How to Leave Someone You Love: The Guide to Help You Decide

How to Leave Someone You Love: The Guide to Help You Decide
If you ask how to leave someone you love, first consider why you want to leave and make sure you are doing the right thing. When I first started the rough draft of this feature, the direction I was looking for was just how to leave someone you love. I then went on to list all the ways you walk away from love for whatever reason you think you must. But, then, I had a change of heart. Why the change of heart? I don’t know if it is just me, my age, or the environment that we live in, but what I see in my own life and the world is disheartening. I have a very few number of friends who are still ma...
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How to Be Romantic with Your Girlfriend: Sweep Her Off Her Feet

How to Be Romantic with Your Girlfriend: Sweep Her Off Her Feet
Make sure you treat your lady right! Here are 25 great ways for how to be romantic with your girlfriend and sweep her off her feet again. Keeping the romance alive in any relationship can be tricky. When you get past those first few months where all you want to do is see each other, do sweet things for one another, go on awesome, inventive, adventurous dates, and, of course, have lots of awesome, inventive, adventurous sex *!*, things can start to go downhill. But if you understand how to be romantic with your girlfriend, you’ll keep the spark of romance alive. Usually, as your relationship wo...
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The Chronically Dissatisfied: Making the Connection Between Gratitude and Well-Being

The Chronically Dissatisfied: Making the Connection Between Gratitude and Well-Being
It’s no secret that unhappy or sullen people tend to focus on the negative side of life. If you are dissatisfied with everything and never see the bright side, then it’s obviously hard to recognize that there’s anything to be grateful for. Many will be familiar with the type: no matter what you do for the chronically dissatisfied, they are never appreciative. Eventually you give up expecting in return for your efforts and count yourself lucky if you receive a perfunctory “thank you.” It seems obvious that if everything seems like doom and gloom then you will have trouble summoning ...
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Indecisiveness: When Your Inability to Decide is a Decision Too

Indecisiveness: When Your Inability to Decide is a Decision Too
We do habitual things because we benefit from them. If you are wondering why you struggle with indecisiveness, there is a deep seeded reason! Indecisiveness is the inability to decide. Sure, we are all posed with decisions difficult to choose from the options laid out in front of us. But, there are some people for whom indecisiveness is more of the totality of their behavior pattern. If you are one of those people, let me let you in on a little secret, your inability to decide is a decision all in itself. See, when you choose not to decide anything for yourself, you make the conscious choice t...
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How to Prepare for Couples Therapy

How to Prepare for Couples Therapy
Going to couples therapy is a big deal. You are drawing a line and putting a stake in the ground in order to make your life and your relationship better. You are choosing to respond to your partner in-person; as opposed to talking about them in individual therapy when they are not around. And likewise, your partner is doing the same. This setting provides an environment to make great strides to overcome complicated issues. But you have to be prepared in order to become the next success story. Don’t wait too long Many couples will wait and let a marital issue fester for many years. The longer t...
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Love Factually now available in Spanish!

Love Factually now available in Spanish!
Wise Readers & Friends, The only two languages more widely spoken than Spanish are Chinese—and love.  I’m beyond excited to announce that Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do is now available globally in Spanish as Enamórate de ti y Encuentra al Amor de tu Vida [Fall in Love with Yourself & Find the Love of Your Life].    Planeta has published the book in two versions: paperback and e-book. The e-book is available globally, including in Los Estados Unidos, and paperbacks are now in stores throughout the Spanish-s...
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How to Help a Possessive Girlfriend Go from Clingy to Amazing

How to Help a Possessive Girlfriend Go from Clingy to Amazing
Most guys want a girl who adores them and hangs on their every word. But, a possessive girlfriend is an entirely different creature. Cut her or tame her! Girlfriends can be a real pain in the ass, even just the average ones. But, if you have a possessive girlfriend, it feels like someone sucks the life right out of you. Before you say adios, there are ways to take the possessive girlfriend and make her less so. If you want to say goodbye, then do. The fact that you’re reading about a “possessive girlfriend” means that you aren’t ready to call it quits just yet. 10 ways to tam...
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18 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For

18 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For
If you wonder if you have a great woman in your arms, there are undeniable qualities of a good woman. If she has them, hold onto her tight. We all possess qualities good and some not so good. The key? The good outweighs the bad, which in relationships isn’t always easy. Some qualities of a good woman are highly overlooked. And, if you aren’t paying attention, you might miss them. 18 qualities of a good woman to signal she is the one for you Being a good woman isn’t about always putting others above yourself or giving in. It is in the moral compass that you have, the empathy you display, and th...
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Lack of Communication in Relationships: How to Fix This Issue

Lack of Communication in Relationships: How to Fix This Issue
A lack of communication in relationships is to blame for the majority of problems between couples nowadays. Here’s how you can solve this issue. I bet you’ve already heard time and time again how important communication is in relationships. You already know that you need to talk about your feelings and be open and honest with each other. But there’s still a major lack of communication in relationships. In fact, it’s one of the primary reasons couples break up. It’s not because they can’t work together, but because one or both people don’t know how to talk to their partner in a way that’ll make...
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How to Keep a Relationship Going: The Secret to Harmonious Love

How to Keep a Relationship Going: The Secret to Harmonious Love
You can’t do anything wrong in a new romance. But as the love grows, learning how to keep a relationship going strong makes all the difference. I am just going to say it—relationships are not easy. In fact, a good relationship is about the rarest thing there is. It is very infrequent when I am not out for a girl’s night, and the conversation turns into a bash session about everyone’s significant other. Whether dating or married, learning how to keep a relationship going isn’t always simple. How to keep your relationship going strong At the beginning of a relationship, you can’t do anythi...
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11 Things You Absolutely Must Know about Toxic People

11 Things You Absolutely Must Know about Toxic People
While most of us have seen fictional representations of psychopaths, sociopaths and people who are evil, these aren’t the kinds of friends, neighbors, co-workers and family members we regularly interact with. Yet, we may be likely to encounter or occasionally deal with people who are best classified as toxic. As the word implies, there’s nothing good about toxic people. Even though most toxic people aren’t criminals, they could have underlying personality disorders, including narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or other mental health condition. Or they could just be mean, sel...
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Ignoring a Guy: How to Do It Right and Leave Him Chasing You

Ignoring a Guy: How to Do It Right and Leave Him Chasing You
Guys have a way of acting as if they don’t need us around. But, try ignoring a guy and see what happens. It is an excellent way to get him and keep him. Often the hardest things to do meet with the best rewards. When it comes to getting a guy to fall head over heels in love, sometimes the way to his heart is not through his stomach but by getting under his skin. Ignoring a guy may be the best way to peak his interest and have him begging for your attention. 6 great arguments for ignoring a guy Guys are predictable creatures. If you chase them, they run. If you are too needy, they pull away. Be...
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Book Review: No More Narcissists

Book Review: No More Narcissists
“The problem is that narcissistic men can initially seem so appealing that it can be hard for those involved with them to break away,” writes Candace Love in her new book, No More Narcissists: How to Stop Choosing Self-Absorbed Men and Find the Love You Deserve. In the book, Love explores the unique allure of the narcissistic man, why women are attracted to him, and most importantly, how they can learn not to be. At first he seems like Prince Charming. He makes you feel special. He seems to have a magnetic attraction, and yet he chose you, and only you. But then everything changes. He begins c...
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What Does Exclusive Mean? 15 Signs to Tell You’re at This Stage

What Does Exclusive Mean? 15 Signs to Tell You’re at This Stage
If you’re ready to settle down with your partner, they may ask if you’re ready to be exclusive. But what does exclusive mean exactly? Here’s how to know. Your relationship will go through a lot of different stages even before you’re considered to be in a real relationship. Meaning, you might not be able to tell when you’re exclusive. But what does exclusive mean? Being exclusive is a term used to describe when a couple decides to only ever date each other. They’re happy with one another and they don’t want to date anyone else. Basically, it’s becoming an official couple. Boyfriend and girlfrie...
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How to Be Mature: A Guide to Grow Up and Face Life like an Adult

How to Be Mature: A Guide to Grow Up and Face Life like an Adult
Learning how to be mature is something we all face at some point in our life. It is not as easy or fun as the carefree days of youth, but it has its own reward. “Adulting” is hard. With bills to pay, a college loan to worry about, and relationship troubles that seems to be pulling at the seams of one’s sanity, how you wish you can revert back to the Hakuna Matata days of your youth. Alas, you’re faced with learning how to be mature instead. Adult life is indeed challenging. And whether you like it or not, it is inevitable. Sooner or later you’ll find yourself adjusting your lifestyle to accomm...
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How Can a Shy Adult Get Dates Without Using Online Dating?

How Can a Shy Adult Get Dates Without Using Online Dating?
Many shy adults feel like there aren’t any options when to meet someone special without using online dating sites. After all, it’s hard to introduce yourself to a stranger when your palms start sweating and your chest tightens up. When the symptoms of shyness or social anxiety kick in, the only thing we want to do is disappear. Q: What did the shy pebble say? A: I wish I was a little boulder It doesn’t have to be that way though. Even though you may not be an instant Romeo, building your confidence with small steps will improve your love life. Here are some ways to train you...
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10 Communication Techniques to Finally Get Them to Open Up to You

10 Communication Techniques to Finally Get Them to Open Up to You
It’s not easy getting someone to talk to you. But open communication is vital in relationships. Here are some communication techniques that can help. You know how important communication is in a relationship. Without it, your relationship won’t last. You’ll have a number of different problems all based on the fact that you lack the necessary communication techniques to make your relationship work. Luckily, those methods can be learned. But it won’t be without effort. Relationships are hard work and a lot of that work is in the communication. You have to be willing to work on talking to each ot...
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Loving Someone with Depression: Why It’s Not Your Job to Fix Them

Loving Someone with Depression: Why It’s Not Your Job to Fix Them
Loving someone with depression can strip you of your own joy. You can’t save them. Only they can save themselves, it isn’t your fault they’re sad. For most of us, when in a relationship, you want to make your partner happy. In fact, you thrive on being with someone who not only fulfills you but that you make their life better too. Loving someone with depression is not an easy thing. It isn’t just tough on them—it takes a toll on you. We all go through times in our lives where things aren’t so great, we get into a funk, or we just don’t feel happy. But, if you live with someone who can’t seem t...
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