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The Art of Listening

The Art of Listening
It’s safe to say that most of us are interested in the quality of our lives. But what we may not remember are the following two ideas: The quality of our lives depends largely on the quality of our relationships. To a large extent, the quality of our relationships depend on the quality of our communication. I’ve stated my belief on communication before – in a committed relationship, you can not not communicate. The real issue is — how do you handle the messages sent between you? Especially the ones involving messages you don’t like, or ones with which you disagree. While I still fully believ...
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Avoid Hot Button Words

Avoid Hot Button Words
Last month I explained why the words “panties” and “moist” might be good words to avoid with your wife. For many women, these are hot button words that make them feel uneasy or grossed out. We all have hot button words and phrases. Some of these are hot buttons for most people or most individuals of one gender or age group. Other hot buttons are more individual. Your wife no doubt has at least a few hot button words or phrases, and I bet you know most of them.  Diligently working to not speak her hot buttons is both wise and loving. Making no effort to avoid her hot bu...
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Create A Life And Marriage That Clicks

Create A Life And Marriage That Clicks
Right now, my married life seems to be clicking, or in the zone. My wife changed jobs to one that has her working directly with people and seeing the impact of her knowledge as it helps them with their money. I’m creating systems, training and resources to help married people like you improve the your most important relationship. We’ve worked hard to get to where we are. Full disclosure, our married life still includes times of frustration, heartache, and tension between us. What makes this different for us is the ebbs and flows of relationship harmony aren’t over-reacted to ...
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How To Harness Time With A Focus On Energy

How To Harness Time With A Focus On Energy
I am an expert time waster. It’s a gift really. You give me a block of time, even an entire day, and I can accomplish next to nothing through all of it. Oh, I’ll look busy. I’ll sit at the computer and keep typing. I’ll keep moving about the house as if there are several projects I’m working on at once. But it can all be an act. A one man show if you will. Perhaps I should take it on the road. Charge admission. Put on several shows a week. Nah … that sounds like too much work. You may be reading this wondering, where does this gift come from because – ...
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Be The Change: Time Use

Be The Change: Time Use
Time keeps on slippin’, slippin’, slippin’ Into the future. ~ Steve Miller Band – Fly Like An Eagle  I know I talk about time use all the time here. The reason for this is everywhere we go we see marriage problems caused by issues of time use. Bad time use choices can destroy a marriage, while poor time use choices will ensure it never grows and becomes the wonderful relationship is could and should be.  I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the divorce rate skyrocketed at the same time our society become chronically busy. If you want a great marriage good marria...
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Marriage Made Easy With The 6 C’s

Marriage Made Easy With The 6 C’s
Remember when you first met your spouse? It may have been one of those fairy-tale moments. Everything around you faded into the background and the only thing that existed was them. You mustered up the courage to introduce yourself and your relationship was born. Or it may have been a friendship that eventually transitioned into a romance. Regardless how it began, married life is different than dating. And nothing can really prepare you for marriage, but marriage. Marriage may be the most difficult thing in your life – it can also be the best thing in your life – likely both. I&#821...
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The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have

The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have
Do a Google search of the word relationships and you’ll find about 178,000,000 articles, links and sites on the topic. Interestingly though, you won’t find many links and articles on the most important relationship you’ll ever have – the one you have with yourself. The relationship you have with yourself has a tremendous impact on your life. Your self esteem, personal outlook, drive, and even mental health is largely shaped by this relationship. Why is this the most important relationship you’ll ever have? Your external world tends to be a reflection of your internal wo...
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The Lasting Power of Love Letters

The Lasting Power of Love Letters
I just ran across an old post my wife wrote about a collection of love letters and notes I had given her. Love notes have lasting power. Yes, they bless her when you give them, but if she saves them they also bless her every time she sees the collection. And the bigger the collection, the better it makes her feel! Links may be monetised Image Credit: © izzzy71 | stock.adobe.com Shop Amazon ♦ Shop to give links page We’re donation supported Thanks for your help! Where we’re going Contact us about speaking Article from: The Generous Husband, by The Generous Husband ...
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Sleep your way to a better marriage

Sleep your way to a better marriage
Sleep has lost respect in our society. Gone are the days of our days being regulated solely by the sun. Now we are routinely charging through our days with lights all around us until we fall into bed and douse all light. The problem with most of our nightly routines – it dramatically affects our sleep. And when our sleep is affected, everything else in our life is as well. Before we go any further, let’s answer the question I know you’re wondering, “How much sleep do you need each night?” First, some foundation. Research has found that we sleep in 90 minute cycles...
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Marriage Is About Action

Marriage Is About Action
Napoleon Dynamite: Well, nobody’s going to go out with ME! Pedro: Have you asked anybody yet? Napoleon Dynamite: No, but who would? I don’t even have any good skills. Pedro: What do you mean? Napoleon Dynamite: You know, like nunchuk skills, bow-hunting skills, computer hacking skills. Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills. Pedro: Aren’t you pretty good at drawing, like animals and warriors and stuff? Napoleon Dynamite: Yes… probably the best that I know of. Pedro: Just draw a picture of the girl you want to take out… and give it to her for like a gift...
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You’re Not Responsible for That

You’re Not Responsible for That
What are you responsible for in your home and marriage? And what are you NOT responsible for? Feeling responsible, or trying to be responsible for things you are not/should not be responsible for is a problem. It lets who should be responsible off the hook, and it eats up your time. It’s also possible you don’t have the ability to do the thing as well as the person who should be doing it. And yes, this happens beyond the home and marriage – we do it in our jobs, at church, in school activities and more. Do you feel responsible where you should not? Have you taken on responsi...
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A Smile Is Universal

A Smile Is Universal
My 12 year old daughter and I are currently spending 4 days in Florida to volunteer with Give Kids The World, a 70 acre non-profit “storybook” resort where children with life threatening illnesses and their families are treated to a weeklong, cost-free family vacation. Thus far, everyone we’ve met has a huge smile on their face. Granted, they are in the midst of a magical week together as a family – but, they also live day in and day out in the midst of the frailty of life. For more details about Give Kids The World, watch the video below and check out their site. They rely on 1,200 volu...
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When Love Dies: Cure For A Broken Heart

When Love Dies:  Cure For A Broken Heart
It has been aptly said that love is a many splendored thing. Indeed, when a person is in love they feel alive, young, energetic, etc. However, when a relationship fails or there is a loss of a loved one there is associated pain. Often, this pain is referred to as a broken heart. It is called a broken heart because the heart is often associated with love. Therefore, if a person loses a love, the heart experiences pain and therefore it is called a broken heart. Subsequently, it is important to know what cures for a broken heart are. Specifically, those cures can be time, counseling ...
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Got a question and not sure who to ask?

Got a question and not sure who to ask?
There are many times in marriage and life where you may have a question but don’t know who to ask because the topic feels too personal, or intimate, or possibly even a little embarrassing. It is also possible that the relationships you have aren’t ready to go to that level – where you have conversations and questions about the more “behind closed doors” topics like sex and intimacy. If this is you, I want to let you know that you have a place you can ask your questions. The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy Members of the Academy get some of their questions answered vi...
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How to Pay Off Student Debt as a Couple

How to Pay Off Student Debt as a Couple
So, you are married now, congratulations! You’re about to experience a wonderful ride. If you are like most people, you probably have some student loan debt that you are holding onto and now that you are married, it may have doubled. Since you both share debt now, you may want to think about paying it off at the same time together to ensure both you and your partner are working towards a better financial future. Below, we will explore some ways that you and your partner can team up and work together to pay off student loan debt as a couple. Let’s take a look. Consolidate Your Student Loa...
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Friday Flashback: Is The Pill Killing Her Sex Drive?

Friday Flashback: Is The Pill Killing Her Sex Drive?
This is a tricky issue because all the needed science hasn’t been done. I’m not one of those who thinks “Big Pharm” is out to get us all, but there is no doubt that drug companies, and a lot of others, don’t want this to be true – and if it is true, they don’t really want the word to get out. Complaints of the pill killing sex drive have been around as long as the pill has, but the claims have been dismissed as anecdotal. Some respond by pointing out that some women have more sex when they go on the pill. An initial increase in sex is likely because se...
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How Did I Get Here?

How Did I Get Here?
Are there times when you wonder how married life unfolded to this point? Or how you sex life became routine or non-existent? Times when you’re completely perplexed by someone you love treating you the way they do? Know this: Things in relationship don’t evolve the way they do by chance. A truism to remember … You teach people how to treat you. If things in your marriage (and life) aren’t the way you’d like them to be – try teaching those around you a better way to treat you. This starts by learning to treat yourself better. Need help with this? Check out Married Life 911 or The Sexy Marriage ...
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Biggest Takeaways in 46 Years

Biggest Takeaways in 46 Years
Today I celebrate turning 46! As I was looking through the archives of Simple Marriage I came across a post from when I turned 39. In it, I made a comment about how my 30s were the best years of my life. I can say that about my 40s thus far. While there are many things I’ve learned in 46 years, I want to pass along the most valuable thoughts. Keep it simple. Most of the issues we face in life aren’t all that complicated. Keep it simple and it usually gets better. Look at relationships as a means to grow up yourself. Relationships are designed to help us grow up. Look at your role ...
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Alpha, Beta, or Christlike?

Alpha, Beta, or Christlike?
I see a lot of talk about alpha and beta males. Alpha males are leaders, they’re confident, they take what they want. Beta males are “nice guys” who put the needs of others first and often doubt themselves. One site I saw called alpha males “mature men” and beta males “immature men”. There are all kinds of books and websites dedicated to turning a beta male into an alpha male. Among other things, these resources promise us that alpha men get way more respect and sex. Some versions of the alpha males are really about being a selfish jerk who cares abou...
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Conversation with Denis Merkas of MELT

This week I sat down with my friend Denis Merkas of MELT. Our conversation wasn’t just a promotional video for MELT, instead we talked about marriage, business, and of course the benefits of their videos. Plus, I asked Denis how often he gives his wife a massage now. If you’re not sure what MELT is, it’s the best couple’s massage training videos on the market today. If you want to pick up your copy of MELT, there’s a sale going on from today until Valentine’s Day. Click here to take advantage of the Valentine’s Sale. Enjoy! The post Conversation with ...
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