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Sexy Marriage Radio Survey

Sexy Marriage Radio Survey
As Sexy Marriage Radio ventures into its Sixth Year, I’m asking if you would please give me a couple of minutes of your time to complete a 13 question survey about the show. As the show has evolved it truly has become listener driven content as most every topic we cover comes from emails and callers to the show. This is your chance to give even more feedback and it will only take a couple of minutes (I know I just said this but I really want to know your thoughts). Your answers are anonymous and I’ll use this feedback to help ensure that the future shows of Sexy Marriage Radio are...
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Friday Flashback: Outliers

Friday Flashback: Outliers
Outliers are individuals who are outside the majority in a statistical study. If you read the comments on this blog, you will see a lot of posts from outliers – folks who want to say “Wait, not everyone is that way, I’m not that way!” I fully understand this; it seems I’m often an outlier, and I’ve posted plenty of comments on other blogs to make it known that what was stated is not true of everyone. I suspect outliers are far more likely to post than those who say, “Yeah, that’s me” or “My wife is exactly like that.” That&#821...
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Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2

Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2
Welcome to my Thursday Q&A…on Saturday. Because Wednesday through Friday were Crazy Town in the Parker office, so I’m two days behind. Anyway, last week, I talked about addressing sexless marriage, or ones in which your libidos are highly mismatched. In that post, I suggested “if you want to make progress in a sexless marriage, you should make every effort to create a safe environment in which your refusing spouse can share and feel validated, loved, and supported.” But let me go back and clarify something for those of you in the midst of a sexual drought in your ma...
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The Problem Isn’t Passion

The Problem Isn’t Passion
  Life has a way of grinding us up if we’re not careful. Think about it, where we likely spend a bulk of our week is even called the grind. Then when we add in the complexities, and at times drudgeries, of relationships we’ve got a recipe for struggle and life sucking burden. Or do we? I think what helps keep us in relationships is the hope of rediscovering the feelings we experienced at the beginning. You know the ones. Obsessive. Blindingly optimistic. And idealistically distorted. We could talk for hours … about nothing (and everything). Hanging on every word and hat...
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You Have Not Because You Ask Not

You Have Not Because You Ask Not
When someone tells me their spouse isn’t giving them something they want, I usually say, “Have you asked for it clearly?” The answers are often something like, “He should know” or “I told her when we got married” or other things that aren’t a clear, recent request.  Let me share a truth with you: If you haven’t asked, you haven’t been refused. And if you asked in the past, but didn’t ask today, then you weren’t refused today. I realise this may seem like wordplay, but it’s not. Rejecting a clear request is much more...
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Looking For A Spark?

Looking For A Spark?
Married life can become routine and comfortable. Comfort serves a purpose – but too much and it becomes monotonous. What if there were a way to add a spark for your marriage? And what if this you could try out this spark for free for 30 days? You can … The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy This is the place where you can ask your questions you feel embarrassed to ask your friends or co-workers or small group at church. There is a community online within the Academy that is asking these questions already – and answering them. Members of the Academy also get their questions answered...
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Let Your No Be No

Let Your No Be No
For many years I had trouble saying no. I would get approached by someone selling something (or answer a sales call at home), listen respectfully to their spiel, then go into a long, drawn out explanation about why I couldn’t take part in what they’re offering. The pressure to say no was even harder when it came to people in my family, and close friends. Over the past couple of years, however, I have discovered that the art of saying “no” is often enough in itself. Often, no explanation is needed, unless requested. Saying “no” is easy when it is a telephone solicitor or via email. ...
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There Are No (Good) Marriage Shortcuts

There Are No (Good) Marriage Shortcuts
I like shortcuts. I like those back streets that get me somewhere faster. I like keyboard shortcuts that do things faster or call up a program.  However, I’ve learned that marriage shortcuts are a snare and delusion. Relationships take time and effort, and shortcuts don’t accomplish the same things as you get from investing the time and effort. To put it another way, you can’t microwave your marriage! If you want a good marriage, you must be all about giving it the time and energy that requires.  Links may be monetised Image Credit: © Meditations | pixabay.com Shop Amazon ...
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Financial Goal Setting With Your Spouse

Financial Goal Setting With Your Spouse
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Patty Moore of Working Mother Life. For many couples, money is a major source of tension within a relationship. In fact, in a 2017 survey, 49 percent of all respondents considered money to be the most critical and stressful factor in their relationship. Undoubtedly, problems with money can cause strain in a relationship. From arguing over having too little money to how money is spent, finances can play a major role in the health of a relationship. That is why it is so critical for couples to work together and communicate in order to effectively wo...
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The Dos and Don’ts of Helping Your Addicted Spouse

The Dos and Don’ts of Helping Your Addicted Spouse
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Joshua Butcher of the Ohio Addiction Recovery Center. Addictions can tear a marriage apart. It’s a scary thing. If you’re dealing with addiction in your marriage right now, take a deep breath. You’ve taken the first step in helping your spouse through the darkness by researching the problem. Every situation is different, but there are some universal dos and don’ts that can help you understand what to do when you’re married to an addict. DO 1. Listen and Observe As with any marital issue, understanding is the best approach. Before you can tackle th...
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The Other Gate-keeping

The Other Gate-keeping
Usually, when we talk about gate-keeping here, we mean a woman who is limiting sex. She guards the gate to what her husband wants, and he only gets in on the rare occasions she allows it. In really bad cases he hasn’t gotten past the gate in months or years.  But gate-keeping is done in other areas of marriage, and men do it too! Plenty of women would say their husband is the gate-keeper of conversation in their marriage. Others would say he’s controlling access to date-nights, non-sexual touch, finances, and more. Are you limiting something your wife would like more of? Just as I...
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Create More Intimacy In Your Marriage

Create More Intimacy In Your Marriage
One of the major things marriage provides is it’s the best chance to create an intimate connection with another person. It’s part of marriage’s elegant design. You and your spouse can create an entire part of life that only the two of you know about. Yet, this intimate connection is also a source of major frustration. Why? Because the marriage of your dreams is very likely not the marriage of your spouse’s dreams! One of the hurdles to creating a close intimate connection with your spouse is an unrealistic togetherness expectation. Stated another way, this is idealized or fan...
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6 Tips For A Sensual Marriage From Solomon

6 Tips For A Sensual Marriage From Solomon
There are many times when the Bible has been used to limit, guilt, shame or otherwise harm people. One area where this is prevalent is marital sex. Too often, the focus in this area has been solely on the pitfalls and prohibition of premarital and extramarital sex. Growing up in a Christian household, the only time the topic of sex was ever mentioned was to stay away from it. To save it for marriage. The main idea of this message is good and true. I believe teenagers aren’t ready for all the complexities of sex. Sure, they can physically engage in the act, but they’re not ready for...
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The Past: Sex

The Past: Sex
Sex has a way of getting deep into our minds and hearts. We recall sexual things more easily and more vividly than most other memories. This means our sexual past has more power to mess us up than many other things from our past. One of the big ways our sexual past affects us is that it created our sexual preferences. The things that first aroused and pleasured us tend to stick with us. For example, I grew up in the era of tube tops*, and my first contact with a girl’s breasts was after she had pulled her tube top down for me. So for me, tube tops are inherently sexy. If Lori walked in ...
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Hangry Spouses Lash Out More

Hangry Spouses Lash Out More
It’s a known fact that conflict will happen in marriage. You and your spouse are going to disagree, argue, and perhaps even fight. But did you know there’s a way to possibly curb the severity of these disagreements? You’ve heard the old adage “don’t go to bed angry” but it may also be important to eat a snack before going to bed, especially if you’re planning to discuss any tense subjects on the way. One issue with tackling tough issues in married life towards the end of the day is self-control is a finite resource. If you or your spouse have spent you...
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Role Play, Movie Sex, and More Questions…Answered

Role Play, Movie Sex, and More Questions…Answered
It’s time for another Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast episode. This one is the first time my schedule allowed me to participate in answering listener questions. Here’s what we tackled this time around: Does anyone really have sex like they do in the movies? Is role play okay in a Christian marriage, even if it involves imagining something that would be wrong to do in real life? How can an older couple maintain sexual intimacy? Is it sexual when my husband says he enjoys looking at other women’s feet? Interesting stuff, right? This podcast has become one of my favorite activi...
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If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be

If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be
The following is an excerpt from Naked Marriage I believe a majority of married couples have a false notion of what marriage truly is, and those rose-colored assumptions tend to heighten expectations to such unrealistic levels that these couples often find themselves in predicament’s like Amy and Daniel’s. Because they don’t understand what marriage is and could be, they hide from each other. To keep the peace, they continue the charades, each spouse reluctantly believing, “I guess this is just how it’s supposed to be.” Consequently, they refuse to get naked with each other in all of th...
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Delight In Your Wife

Delight In Your Wife
The other day Lori told me how wonderful it is for a woman to feel her husband delights in her. And yes, this was said in the context of “I love how you delight in me.” “Delight” is not a word I would generally use for myself, but yes I do delight in my wife, and yes, my actions show that. Apparently, this is a good thing. Do you delight in your wife? Links may be monetised Image Credit: © tashatuvango | stock.adobe.com Shop Amazon ♦ Shop to give links page We’re donation supported Thanks for your help! Where we’re going Contact us about speaking ...
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How to Change Up Your At-Home Date Night for Lasting Love

How to Change Up Your At-Home Date Night for Lasting Love
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Nancy DeVault of DateNightGuide.com. Life is full of responsibilities ─ work, kids, etc. ─ which can distract couples from making each other a priority. Consequently, spouses who don’t spend quality time together risk losing their connection and/or feeling less satisfied in their marriage. Committing to a routine date night can be a small change with big relationship benefits! In fact, the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia recently published the Date Night Opportunity study, which found that regular date nights achieved high...
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