Author: JSS

Couples Therapists Reveal the Ingredients that Make the Biggest Impact on Your Relationship

Couples Therapists Reveal the Ingredients that Make the Biggest Impact on Your Relationship
When prospective clients call couples therapist Julia Nowland, they say they need help with communication. Because, they say, once they learn to communicate, their disagreements will finally diminish. How we communicate is critical to our closeness. However, the most important ingredient in a happy, healthy relationship, according to Nowland, is … you. “You can learn all the communication skills in the world but if you’re not willing to put them into practice when the emotions are running high, or you’re tired, or your GPS isn’t working and you’re lost on a count...
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First Love Factually book ad is crafted by its readers

First Love Factually book ad is crafted by its readers
Wise Readers & Friends: The first Love Factually book ad is up! I thank all of you who helped with the brief descriptions of the book. Y’all are pure genius—and you really get what this is all about:  Love + Science = a fun, easy read that lets science guide your search.  Love Factually blends heart, soul, and science so you find and keep the one.         Article from: Love Science-relationship advice, by Read more here. Photo by Nirvanagraphy - Away ! Interested in more on dating? continue reading here.
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How to Leave Someone You Love: The Guide to Help You Decide

How to Leave Someone You Love: The Guide to Help You Decide
If you ask how to leave someone you love, first consider why you want to leave and make sure you are doing the right thing. When I first started the rough draft of this feature, the direction I was looking for was just how to leave someone you love. I then went on to list all the ways you walk away from love for whatever reason you think you must. But, then, I had a change of heart. Why the change of heart? I don’t know if it is just me, my age, or the environment that we live in, but what I see in my own life and the world is disheartening. I have a very few number of friends who are still ma...
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Sexy Marriage Radio Survey

Sexy Marriage Radio Survey
As Sexy Marriage Radio ventures into its Sixth Year, I’m asking if you would please give me a couple of minutes of your time to complete a 13 question survey about the show. As the show has evolved it truly has become listener driven content as most every topic we cover comes from emails and callers to the show. This is your chance to give even more feedback and it will only take a couple of minutes (I know I just said this but I really want to know your thoughts). Your answers are anonymous and I’ll use this feedback to help ensure that the future shows of Sexy Marriage Radio are...
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How to Be Romantic with Your Girlfriend: Sweep Her Off Her Feet

How to Be Romantic with Your Girlfriend: Sweep Her Off Her Feet
Make sure you treat your lady right! Here are 25 great ways for how to be romantic with your girlfriend and sweep her off her feet again. Keeping the romance alive in any relationship can be tricky. When you get past those first few months where all you want to do is see each other, do sweet things for one another, go on awesome, inventive, adventurous dates, and, of course, have lots of awesome, inventive, adventurous sex *!*, things can start to go downhill. But if you understand how to be romantic with your girlfriend, you’ll keep the spark of romance alive. Usually, as your relationship wo...
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The Chronically Dissatisfied: Making the Connection Between Gratitude and Well-Being

The Chronically Dissatisfied: Making the Connection Between Gratitude and Well-Being
It’s no secret that unhappy or sullen people tend to focus on the negative side of life. If you are dissatisfied with everything and never see the bright side, then it’s obviously hard to recognize that there’s anything to be grateful for. Many will be familiar with the type: no matter what you do for the chronically dissatisfied, they are never appreciative. Eventually you give up expecting in return for your efforts and count yourself lucky if you receive a perfunctory “thank you.” It seems obvious that if everything seems like doom and gloom then you will have trouble summoning ...
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Indecisiveness: When Your Inability to Decide is a Decision Too

Indecisiveness: When Your Inability to Decide is a Decision Too
We do habitual things because we benefit from them. If you are wondering why you struggle with indecisiveness, there is a deep seeded reason! Indecisiveness is the inability to decide. Sure, we are all posed with decisions difficult to choose from the options laid out in front of us. But, there are some people for whom indecisiveness is more of the totality of their behavior pattern. If you are one of those people, let me let you in on a little secret, your inability to decide is a decision all in itself. See, when you choose not to decide anything for yourself, you make the conscious choice t...
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Friday Flashback: Outliers

Friday Flashback: Outliers
Outliers are individuals who are outside the majority in a statistical study. If you read the comments on this blog, you will see a lot of posts from outliers – folks who want to say “Wait, not everyone is that way, I’m not that way!” I fully understand this; it seems I’m often an outlier, and I’ve posted plenty of comments on other blogs to make it known that what was stated is not true of everyone. I suspect outliers are far more likely to post than those who say, “Yeah, that’s me” or “My wife is exactly like that.” That&#821...
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Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2

Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2
Welcome to my Thursday Q&A…on Saturday. Because Wednesday through Friday were Crazy Town in the Parker office, so I’m two days behind. Anyway, last week, I talked about addressing sexless marriage, or ones in which your libidos are highly mismatched. In that post, I suggested “if you want to make progress in a sexless marriage, you should make every effort to create a safe environment in which your refusing spouse can share and feel validated, loved, and supported.” But let me go back and clarify something for those of you in the midst of a sexual drought in your ma...
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How to Prepare for Couples Therapy

How to Prepare for Couples Therapy
Going to couples therapy is a big deal. You are drawing a line and putting a stake in the ground in order to make your life and your relationship better. You are choosing to respond to your partner in-person; as opposed to talking about them in individual therapy when they are not around. And likewise, your partner is doing the same. This setting provides an environment to make great strides to overcome complicated issues. But you have to be prepared in order to become the next success story. Don’t wait too long Many couples will wait and let a marital issue fester for many years. The longer t...
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Love Factually now available in Spanish!

Love Factually now available in Spanish!
Wise Readers & Friends, The only two languages more widely spoken than Spanish are Chinese—and love.  I’m beyond excited to announce that Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do is now available globally in Spanish as Enamórate de ti y Encuentra al Amor de tu Vida [Fall in Love with Yourself & Find the Love of Your Life].    Planeta has published the book in two versions: paperback and e-book. The e-book is available globally, including in Los Estados Unidos, and paperbacks are now in stores throughout the Spanish-s...
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How to Help a Possessive Girlfriend Go from Clingy to Amazing

How to Help a Possessive Girlfriend Go from Clingy to Amazing
Most guys want a girl who adores them and hangs on their every word. But, a possessive girlfriend is an entirely different creature. Cut her or tame her! Girlfriends can be a real pain in the ass, even just the average ones. But, if you have a possessive girlfriend, it feels like someone sucks the life right out of you. Before you say adios, there are ways to take the possessive girlfriend and make her less so. If you want to say goodbye, then do. The fact that you’re reading about a “possessive girlfriend” means that you aren’t ready to call it quits just yet. 10 ways to tam...
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18 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For

18 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For
If you wonder if you have a great woman in your arms, there are undeniable qualities of a good woman. If she has them, hold onto her tight. We all possess qualities good and some not so good. The key? The good outweighs the bad, which in relationships isn’t always easy. Some qualities of a good woman are highly overlooked. And, if you aren’t paying attention, you might miss them. 18 qualities of a good woman to signal she is the one for you Being a good woman isn’t about always putting others above yourself or giving in. It is in the moral compass that you have, the empathy you display, and th...
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The Problem Isn’t Passion

The Problem Isn’t Passion
  Life has a way of grinding us up if we’re not careful. Think about it, where we likely spend a bulk of our week is even called the grind. Then when we add in the complexities, and at times drudgeries, of relationships we’ve got a recipe for struggle and life sucking burden. Or do we? I think what helps keep us in relationships is the hope of rediscovering the feelings we experienced at the beginning. You know the ones. Obsessive. Blindingly optimistic. And idealistically distorted. We could talk for hours … about nothing (and everything). Hanging on every word and hat...
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Lack of Communication in Relationships: How to Fix This Issue

Lack of Communication in Relationships: How to Fix This Issue
A lack of communication in relationships is to blame for the majority of problems between couples nowadays. Here’s how you can solve this issue. I bet you’ve already heard time and time again how important communication is in relationships. You already know that you need to talk about your feelings and be open and honest with each other. But there’s still a major lack of communication in relationships. In fact, it’s one of the primary reasons couples break up. It’s not because they can’t work together, but because one or both people don’t know how to talk to their partner in a way that’ll make...
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How to Keep a Relationship Going: The Secret to Harmonious Love

How to Keep a Relationship Going: The Secret to Harmonious Love
You can’t do anything wrong in a new romance. But as the love grows, learning how to keep a relationship going strong makes all the difference. I am just going to say it—relationships are not easy. In fact, a good relationship is about the rarest thing there is. It is very infrequent when I am not out for a girl’s night, and the conversation turns into a bash session about everyone’s significant other. Whether dating or married, learning how to keep a relationship going isn’t always simple. How to keep your relationship going strong At the beginning of a relationship, you can’t do anythi...
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You Have Not Because You Ask Not

You Have Not Because You Ask Not
When someone tells me their spouse isn’t giving them something they want, I usually say, “Have you asked for it clearly?” The answers are often something like, “He should know” or “I told her when we got married” or other things that aren’t a clear, recent request.  Let me share a truth with you: If you haven’t asked, you haven’t been refused. And if you asked in the past, but didn’t ask today, then you weren’t refused today. I realise this may seem like wordplay, but it’s not. Rejecting a clear request is much more...
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Looking For A Spark?

Looking For A Spark?
Married life can become routine and comfortable. Comfort serves a purpose – but too much and it becomes monotonous. What if there were a way to add a spark for your marriage? And what if this you could try out this spark for free for 30 days? You can … The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy This is the place where you can ask your questions you feel embarrassed to ask your friends or co-workers or small group at church. There is a community online within the Academy that is asking these questions already – and answering them. Members of the Academy also get their questions answered...
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11 Things You Absolutely Must Know about Toxic People

11 Things You Absolutely Must Know about Toxic People
While most of us have seen fictional representations of psychopaths, sociopaths and people who are evil, these aren’t the kinds of friends, neighbors, co-workers and family members we regularly interact with. Yet, we may be likely to encounter or occasionally deal with people who are best classified as toxic. As the word implies, there’s nothing good about toxic people. Even though most toxic people aren’t criminals, they could have underlying personality disorders, including narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or other mental health condition. Or they could just be mean, sel...
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