Raise your hands if you too came here just to confirm whether your girlfriend has the following traits or not. Don’t give me that sheepish look dude, bros don’t need words to understand each other. At times there are moments when even our mothers start doubting our friendship and think that we were only a step away from becoming a couple. Well, let’s save that conversation for some other time and discuss a global concern that even scientists can’t f**king figure out – women. But, trust me if there is anything harder than rocket science or women, it has to be being in love with a woman who is emotionally shut.
Are you still blaming yourself for that ‘fancy-candlelight-dinner-with-a-ring-inside-a-champagne-glass’ proposal gone wrong? Well, if you f**ked up, that’s another story, but if she rejected you on the grounds of being unable to love you, because of some reason that’s hard to digest, she is probably carrying emotional baggage. Even if she shows interest in you later, calling you a nice guy, take it as a red flag because chances are it might not last long. However, don’t feel bad because exceptions are always there and you can be an epitome of that section. So, just to be doubly sure, here are some signs to identify where your girlfriend or date is emotionally unavailable or not.
1. She Is Least Interested In Knowing About You
You might have been in a relationship for months now, but if she still doesn’t acknowledge you in front of her friends or family, boy you are heading nowhere. Further, she wouldn’t be too keen to know about you either. Although, chances of this situation are very bleak, it’s not that it doesn’t happen.
2. She Is Very ‘Casual’ About Relationships
There is no denying the fact that we men are criticized for having a casual approach towards things. But, when it comes to relationship, ladies, we are damn serious. But with her, things will be the opposite, her actions will be very casual and unpredictable. There will be days when she will have sex with you and then the next day, disappear suddenly and not talk to you for a couple of days in a stretch. Casual sex becomes the only thing left to be mooched off the relationship.
3. Bro, You’re A Rebound
Guys, it’s no rocket science. If a relationship lasted for a really long time, then getting out of that zone after a breakup will take some time too. And we all know that when someone gets into a relationship immediately after a breakup, it’s possibly a rebound. Hint: She would spend more time cribbing about her ex than having areal conversation with you.
4. She Will Be Available Only At Her Convenience
Are you always the one who walks that extra mile to make things work? Congratulations, you’ve got your answer. While she would expect you to be there 24*7 for her, when you need her, she will be unavailable, just like her emotions. Terms like ‘adjustment’ or ‘time’ would probably not make it to her dictionary while she is dating you.
5. They Crave Attention All The Time
She knows how to pamper you and insult you at the same time. Such women are for real. Every time you need anything from her, she will reward you as ‘The Best Boyfriend In The World’. But, the moment work is done, she will shun you and pretend that she can’t do anything for you. Further, because of their growing jealousy they will often try to separate you from your friends. But folks, don’t fall for it, remember the code “Bros before hoes”.
6. They Are Highly Commitment Phobic
For them ‘Commitment’ will be the word they dread the most. Even if you jokingly mention that you want to take things to another level, it will scare the hell out of them. Soon after, they will start finding reasons, making excuses or setting agendas for you to follow. In short, she will try to control you.
7. They Make You Feel Blessed To Have Them
Have you ever had anxiety or insecurity of not being good enough for your girl? Do you often doubt yourself and trust your girl’s words blindly, when she says that you should thank your stars for having met her or consider yourself lucky. Has she ever (boastfully) counted the number of guys she has dated before you? You’re doomed. In fact, it will be your insecurities and the noted flaws that will be used against you at the time of breaking up.
8. She Will Try To Replicate The Agony On You
Being emotionally unavailable is not a fancy concept. You might feel that the points noted above are superficial and exaggerated, but the baggage of a past relationship is way too real. At times, situations like broken or bitter family relations, troubled childhood or abusive past relationship, compel a person to block herself emotionally. And because of this bottled up anger, she would often try to hurt you expecting you to go through all that in the name of love.
9. They Love To Take You Out On Guilt Trip
Accepting your mistake to pacify the situation once or twice is fine, but if you are the one who always apologises, even when it’s not your fault; you know where this conversation is heading. She would always make you feel guilty and find thousands of flaws in you and you will always be the one asking for forgiveness.
10. She Has The ‘Emotional’ Card Up Her Sleeves
This is the deadliest sign of all the ones mentioned here. When you see that your relationship is heading nowhere, and a breakup seems to be the best option, but even that is not possible. The moment you will wish to end things with her, she will charm you into staying for some more time. She will make you believe that there is still some hope left in your relationship. And you will, as expected, fall for the trick.
So folks, if your girlfriend does not fall under this category, go and give her a big hug right now.
Article from: RELATIONSHIPS, by MensXP Team
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