Role Play, Movie Sex, and More Questions…Answered

Role Play, Movie Sex, and More Questions…Answered
It’s time for another Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast episode. This one is the first time my schedule allowed me to participate in answering listener questions. Here’s what we tackled this time around: Does anyone really have sex like they do in the movies? Is role play okay in a Christian marriage, even if it involves imagining something that would be wrong to do in real life? How can an older couple maintain sexual intimacy? Is it sexual when my husband says he enjoys looking at other women’s feet? Interesting stuff, right? This podcast has become one of my favorite activi...
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Topics You Must Regularly Discuss as a Couple

Topics You Must Regularly Discuss as a Couple
We know that communication is key in a relationship. After all, we aren’t mind readers. If we don’t talk about important topics, we don’t know where we stand. We don’t know where we’re headed. We don’t know what’s inside our partner’s heart. Having meaningful conversations deepens our relationship — and keeps it healthy. By the time most couples arrive at Rebecca Wong’s office, they’ve stopped talking. They don’t share their thoughts or feelings. They don’t feel safe and comfortable doing so. They’ve already constructed tall walls. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Below Wong and...
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Free dating seminar: Science of finding love online. one day only, Eugene, Oregon

Free dating seminar: Science of finding love online. one day only, Eugene, Oregon
Wise Readers, This Saturday, August 26th, at 2:00 p.m., I’ll be teaching a free interactive seminar at the downtown branch of the Eugene Public Library (Eugene, Oregon) about finding love online. Have you ever wanted to write the perfect online profile? Select the best dating sites and apps for yourself? Learn more about who’s online, and whether relationships created via the Interwebs are better or worse? Deal with whether and whom to reach out to, and how much time to spend? Bring your questions and some paper and pens. See you there!       Article from: Love...
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Feeling Smothered: How to Learn to Give Space and Breathe Again

Feeling Smothered: How to Learn to Give Space and Breathe Again
If you are feeling smothered, then speak up. If you don’t get some space, you are going to get to the point where there is no going back. When you are in love, those first few weeks are, well, spectacular. You can’t get enough of each other. You giggle at every little ping of your phone telling you your sweetie says “Hi.” You might even give them their own ring tone. But, what happens when you start feeling smothered? Does that mean the romance is over? Every relationship goes through a natural course of stages. Lust is first, where you can’t get enough of them. The second, a cooli...
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If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be

If marriage is nothing like you thought it would be
The following is an excerpt from Naked Marriage I believe a majority of married couples have a false notion of what marriage truly is, and those rose-colored assumptions tend to heighten expectations to such unrealistic levels that these couples often find themselves in predicament’s like Amy and Daniel’s. Because they don’t understand what marriage is and could be, they hide from each other. To keep the peace, they continue the charades, each spouse reluctantly believing, “I guess this is just how it’s supposed to be.” Consequently, they refuse to get naked with each other in all of th...
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Why Women Pull Away: 12 Reasons Why Girls Run as You Get Closer

Why Women Pull Away: 12 Reasons Why Girls Run as You Get Closer
You’re dating a girl and want to take it to the next level, but do you feel like she’s pulling away? Here’s why women pull away in the first place. This always happens, even to the best of us. We’re hanging out with someone, we start to develop feelings, and just when you think everything’s going great, boom. It ends. Don’t worry, you’re not the only one wondering why women pull away. Sadly, this happens to most of us, even me. I went to Australia for a guy, and he pulled away while I was there, so don’t think it’s so cheery on our side either. So, if you’re dealing with this right now, ...
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When a Narcissist Is Also Codependent

When a Narcissist Is Also Codependent
Writers often distinguish narcissists and codependents as opposites, but surprisingly, though their outward behavior may differ, they share many psychological traits. In fact, narcissists exhibit core codependent symptoms of shame, denial, control, dependency (unconscious), and dysfunctional communication and boundaries, all leading to intimacy problems. One study showed a significant correlation between narcissism and codependency. Although most narcissists can be classified as codependent, but the reverse isn’t true — most codependents aren’t narcissists. They don’t exhibit common trai...
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Relationship Therapy: 25 Clues to Know If It’ll Help Your Romance

Relationship Therapy: 25 Clues to Know If It’ll Help Your Romance
Knowing if you and your partner need relationship therapy can be tricky. These 25 signs help you decide if it’s time to seek professional help. Admitting that your relationship might be on the rocks is not easy. However, recognizing what it is and wanting to fight for it is the only way to save it. Relationship therapy can provide a lot of help in a struggling relationship. If you ignore your relationship problems and bury them, the likelihood is you’ll only make things worse, argue more, and become more miserable. When you do try to finally sort it out, it will be too late and feel like the o...
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Delight In Your Wife

Delight In Your Wife
The other day Lori told me how wonderful it is for a woman to feel her husband delights in her. And yes, this was said in the context of “I love how you delight in me.” “Delight” is not a word I would generally use for myself, but yes I do delight in my wife, and yes, my actions show that. Apparently, this is a good thing. Do you delight in your wife? Links may be monetised Image Credit: © tashatuvango | stock.adobe.com Shop Amazon ♦ Shop to give links page We’re donation supported Thanks for your help! Where we’re going Contact us about speaking ...
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How to Change Up Your At-Home Date Night for Lasting Love

How to Change Up Your At-Home Date Night for Lasting Love
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Nancy DeVault of DateNightGuide.com. Life is full of responsibilities ─ work, kids, etc. ─ which can distract couples from making each other a priority. Consequently, spouses who don’t spend quality time together risk losing their connection and/or feeling less satisfied in their marriage. Committing to a routine date night can be a small change with big relationship benefits! In fact, the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia recently published the Date Night Opportunity study, which found that regular date nights achieved high...
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If You Or Someone You Love Is Hiding Depression — Almost Perfectly

If You Or Someone You Love Is Hiding Depression — Almost Perfectly
People who are married or who’ve been together a long time think they know each other pretty well. You can finish each other’s sentences. You know what they order on a burger, or if California rolls are their favorite. Someone wants to throw them a surprise birthday party? You agree, knowing he’d be as excited as a toddler, or you quickly squash the idea, since you know she hates being the center of attention and doubly hates surprises. A lot of the time you’re right. Your predictions are accurate. However, it’s nice to occasionally get a good laugh, as you deligh...
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Kindness is Learnable and We Need Kindness Now

Kindness is Learnable and We Need Kindness Now
Wise Readers: Science proves that kindness is learnable; current events show that it’s so needed now. You’ve often heard me say that without being and finding a partner who is kind and respectful—not just when things are going their way, but as a habit—love won’t last. Fortunately, there are solid, science-supported resources for becoming more kind.  Doug Carnine’s two one-minute long videos about his books will remind you of the value of kindness. The first video, about his inspirational book Saint Badass: Personal Transcendence in Tucker M...
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Does Your College Major Still Matter?

Does Your College Major Still Matter?
Forty years ago it was expected that a chemistry major would work in an industrial firm after graduating or, if he was pre-med, go on to medical school. Most graduates in the humanities and social sciences became high school teachers or went on to do PhDs. Your major in college used to matter. In the time just after WWII, what you chose to study as an undergrad determined your professional path. Things started to change in the 80s, and the trend has continued well into the present. Today former French lit majors run tech companies and electric...
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Manipulative Men: How to Understand the Method to their Madness

Manipulative Men: How to Understand the Method to their Madness
Have you ever been with a guy who makes up feel down and down feel up? Some manipulative men have an uncanny ability to make you question everything. Manipulative men are abundant. I am not saying women can’t be manipulative, but we get a worse rap when it comes to our ability to lead men on, be cunning, and controlling. The truth is both sexes have the ability to manipulate their partners. Manipulative men leave you questioning just about everything about yourself. They have a way to do things and make it your fault. In fact, just about everything is your fault. Don’t fall for it! There is a ...
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3 Life Lessons From James “Ghost” St. Patrick

3 Life Lessons From James “Ghost” St. Patrick
The hit crime drama Power features one of the most enigmatic characters in all the programs that have appeared in the genre over the last ten years. The main protagonist is James “Ghost” St. Patrick played by Omari Hardwick. From the very first scene of the first episode you know he is a man of style, elegance, lucidity, sophistication, intelligence, perception, and considerable self-control. But little time is wasted in presenting the plain facts of his career and occupation: he is the most powerful drug dealer in New York City, and he just ...
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Emotional Attraction: 11 Signs You Have It and Why It’s Essential

Emotional Attraction: 11 Signs You Have It and Why It’s Essential
If there’s one thing all successful relationships need, it’s emotional attraction. Here’s why it’s important and the signs you have it with someone. There are all sorts of thing you probably look for in a partner. They need to be attractive to you, smart, funny, perhaps even very clean and organized. But the thing that’s not on your list but should be is emotional attraction. This is extremely important in relationships and without it, the relationship just won’t last very long. You can be attracted to someone in every single other way but if emotional attraction is absent, it’ll never work. W...
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Challenge Meanings

Challenge Meanings
As the most evolved species on the planet, humans are granted the ability to experience much more in this life than a genetic drive to find food, find a mate, and procreate for species survival. Humans have the ability to make choices. To be the masters of their own fate. You see it everyday. People who make good decisions and those that make bad ones. There are many articles on Simple Marriage that discuss how emotions and reactions can impact decisions. I am not advocating that decisions in life be devoid of emotion, our emotions are another aspect that distinguish us as humans. I am however...
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All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common

All Healthy Relationships Have This in Common
Many of us don’t really know what makes a relationship healthy. Which is understandable, because many of us simply never learned. We look to our families to teach us, and depending on your childhood experiences, you might’ve seen a very different picture. A picture that was anything but healthy (though you assumed, again understandably, that it was totally normal and common). Maybe you regularly heard screaming and slammed doors. Maybe you regularly saw conflict go unaddressed, put away in a box in a bedroom. Maybe you regularly saw sulking and silent treatment. Maybe you regularly watched mas...
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How to Tell if There’s Serious Chemistry Between Two People

How to Tell if There’s Serious Chemistry Between Two People
If you’re just an onlooker or you want to know if you have a connection with someone, knowing the signs of chemistry between two people is essential. It’s not always obvious when two people have a connection. And if you’re one of those two people, that can make it a bit frustrating. Sure, you know you like a person but how you be sure they like you too? Knowing how to read if there’s chemistry between two people can be a lot more beneficial than you probably think. However, chemistry is a very odd thing because it’s not very obvious. You can’t really look at it from a distance and see it. It a...
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Is Politics Ruining Your Friendships?

Is Politics Ruining Your Friendships?
I have written on this subject a couple of times before. I was rather abstract and non-committal in those earlier pieces. I explored hypotheticals and explained how you might keep your friendships intact despite political differences. But politics has turned in such a way that compels me to be more forthright in this matter. First, we must be absolutely clear about one thing. The claim that Trump has caused division in the country is false. He has done no such thing. He has only brought to the fore divisions that were already there. Putting Nazis and wh...
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